Category: Vulnerability

Let Everything Happen to You

“Let everything happen to you: beauty and terror. Just keep going. No feeling is final.” -Rilke I’m sick, premenstrual and feeling really down. This quote helps. I don’t normally share when I have tears on my face but today I just wanted to say I’m sad and be in it with you, even though one of the things that is…

Being Seen

I’ve been thinking about what it means to be seen and take up space in the world. Today I had a fabulous conversation about being a woman and having a body with some truly amazing women. Having a body should be a simple thing. I have a body just like that cactus, tree or stone. I just am. And yet…

After Seeing A Star is Born

My partner Stacy is coming up to her 7-year celebration for her sobriety in a few weeks. When we met I knew she was an alcoholic. Often people will come to me and say how wonderful I am for sticking by her during that last phase of hitting bottom. And I’m here to say I was not wonderful. I was pissed off…

Sharing from the Scar

I used to take memoir writing workshops with Anna Camilleri, author of I am a Red Dress, many years ago. I’d take the GO bus in and out of Toronto just to attend her evening workshops. It was a gift I gave to myself that I’ve never once regretted. One thing she taught me is that it’s important to share…

Coming Out Day

When I was growing up I didn’t know anyone who was out of the closet. There were no high school clubs, tv shows or movies I knew about. No one to show me or tell me that who I was was okay. I remember having major crushes on girls and shoving it aside as nothing. I remember coming home in…

Why I Enchant My Everyday

Many years ago, when I was struggling with a deep depression, I began to teach myself a new language. I learned how to find beauty, wonder and awe in my everyday. It saved my life and continues to! I remember the first time I looked up at a bird flying across the big sky over the big sea near where…

Out of Hiding

Hiding and I don’t really get along very well. It’s a big part of my shadow work. I hide, and I’m really good at it. I can disappear anywhere. And it totally sucks. Because the truth is I want to live with a heart wide open! Big blooming heart as big as the full moon or how I feel when…

On Our 9 Year Anniversary

Nine and a half years ago we met in a bar during art crawl in Hamilton. I was wearing blue plaid pants and miserable in a terrible relationship. …Although I do miss those vintage polyester pants. I asked our mutual friend what her type was and he said “you.” A few months later her mom died and I got out…

No More Burn Out or Why I Choose Sunsets

Depletion is no longer an option. No one knows the path you’re on or the energy you have in your tank, but you. I remember when I first learned about burnout. It was after realizing I couldn’t fight the good fight anymore. I was waking up with nightmares and could barely sleep. Even the thought of going outside was impossible.…

Braving My Wilderness

Have you ever shared something you didn’t agree with (or agreed with part of but, in truth, it didn’t sit right with you) because that was the “thing” to share at the moment and you were afraid if you didn’t you’d be viewed as being on the wrong side of an issue? I have. Have you ever not said what…